Dr. Tony L. Nelson

Squeaky Snow

Posted by on Jan 18, 2017 in Blog | 1 comment

Squeaky Snow

The other day as I walked out mid afternoon to retrieve the mail, I noticed that the snow was “squeaky”. Scrunch, scrunch went my shoes as I hustled across the city street. If you grew up in the north, you know what that means, as the old song says—“baby, it’s cold outside!”

When I got back inside my warm house, I checked my weather app on my phone and it said that it was 12 degrees… and, “feels like 0”. Isn’t it goofy to walk outside, know that its freezing cold and then check some electronic device to confirm what you already know! Sheesh!

I shared all that to say that winter has arrived where I live with an unusually frosty grip. I have ice on my driveway and piles of snow that probably won’t be gone until early March. We probably won’t see temps in the 60’s for quite sometime—unlike my Arizona friends who keep posting pictures of people in short sleeves and cargo shorts as they soak up temps in the 70’s. I could almost despise those people!

But I do like winter, and what’s even more strange is that my wife likes it more! We both like a good winter with lots of snow (yes, I alpine ski), and cold. I know, we’re nuts. As bad as winter gets, we know this fact: winter doesn’t last forever. The season of white will eventually give way to the color of spring–the season of hope.

Maybe you’re reading this blog in the middle of a winter storm in your life, that blasted in like a prairie blizzard. Maybe your spouse told you they wanted out, or the test results confirmed your doctor’s suspicion that that lump you felt is cancer. There are so many people hurting and struggling around us, fighting to find hope in their own personal winter.

I don’t know a lot of things, but I do know this, winter doesn’t last forever. Your winter won’t last forever. Spring is coming. If God is good, and He is, then He is working on our behalf, even in the deepest winters. I know it doesn’t feel like it, but it is true. Nature tells us this.

In winter, trees are still alive, but are resting for the next season of growth. Speaking of trees, out here in the west, we’ve seen entire mountainsides of pine trees destroyed by the nasty mountain pine beetle. Millions of acres of forest have been destroyed by this beetle. I’m told that it has been thriving in the last decade because of the unusually hot and dry summers and mild winters we’ve had throughout the west. But this winter is going to put the hurt on these bugs. So I’ll go hug a tree!

Metaphorically, our personal winter seasons are probably removing unhealthy things from our lives as well; bad attitudes, harmful relationships, inadequate views of God and other issues of the soul. Harsh winter seasons seem to last forever, but remember, winter will end. Spring will come. Hold on. Keep believing. Keep growing.

After all, it is a crazy life for all!

Dr. Tony

PS A friend of mine in Fairbanks Alaska posted that it hit 50 below zero today… now that’s cold!

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Daddy’s and Daughters

Posted by on Jan 9, 2017 in Blog | 1 comment

Daddy’s and Daughters

I’m an eavesdropper. It is amazing what you can learn from watching and listening to others—even when they don’t know you’re snooping! About a week ago I was sitting in the coffee shop at Schweitzer Mountain Ski Resort waiting for some friends to show up to ski. The coffee shop is pretty cozy and had filled with people coming off the mountain to warm up.

I was just a few feet away from a Daddy and daughter duo. She was probably 10-12 years old and he in his early thirty’s. They were having hot chocolate and talking about their skiing plans. Propped up against the frosty windowsill was the terrain map of the ski resort. I heard the dad asking his daughter where she wanted to go. I didn’t quite hear her response but what the dad did next was priceless. He was actively listening, had good eye contact and was nodding his head while she spoke. He was clearly in her space and she loved it!

After she spoke a bit, he then did what dads are supposed to do. He challenged his daughter. He told her she was a good enough skier and should tackle steeper terrain. She balked. He listened and came right back and said, “I know you can ski steeper stuff. I’ll be right there with you. You’ll be fine.” She whined a little bit more. But he didn’t cave in, instead he repeated himself and sealed the deal with, “OK, its time to go take on the hill, get your stuff on.” The conversation was over. Dad had decided that they would tackle the hill together. She dutifully put on her sparkly hat and buckled her ski boots, joined her dad and they disappeared into the crowds to get their gear. I would have loved to ski behind them to see how she did. But I’m pretty sure she did well. Even if she fell, I knew the type of father she had. He’d be there to pull her up, wipe the tears and lead the way down the hill.

I loved being a daddy to my daughter. I still do! We had many great talks sipping hot chocolate in that very coffee shop. One of my favorite pictures is of Carli sitting in that same place with twin braids hanging out of her cute cap, rosy cheeks and a sweet smile!

We all need fathers to love us and to stretch us. If you didn’t have a father growing up, let me remind you that if you are a disciple of Jesus, you have an amazing father right now! We each have a Heavenly Father who loves us and stretches us for our good. Maybe this is what the anonymous writer of Hebrews had in mind when he wrote:

Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness.  No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. (Hebrews 12:7-11)

Please don’t interpret discipline as getting a spanking. That’s not the writer’s intent. Think of it more like a seasoned coach—or a loving Father—who knows the demands that lie ahead in your chosen sport—and in life—and is preparing you for the hardship of battle. God doesn’t want you to grow weary and quit, so he pushes us to develop those spiritual muscles. He takes us to ever steeper terrain, so we won’t fear. I have a friend who likes to say that, “God is always working up stream on our behalf.” I like that. What it means is that God knows what might be coming up, so He prepares us, He looks into our hearts and says, “You’ve got this. I know you can do this. So let’s go ski the steep and deep.”

It is a Crazy Life!

Dr. Tony

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Letting Go of the Past

Posted by on Dec 28, 2016 in Blog | 2 comments

Letting Go of the Past

I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past… St. Paul

With a New Year peaking over the horizon, I thought I’d write a few lines about how best to prepare for 2017. The first thing I would suggest is to let go of 2016. As you can tell this idea isn’t original with me. The Apostle Paul suggested it over 2,000 years ago (see the verse above), and it’s still good advice. He said to “forget” the past. The Greek word he uses here literally means: “neglecting, no longer caring for, given over to oblivion”. “Forget” really isn’t a very good translation. I’m convinced that Paul wasn’t suggesting that we actually “forget” the past—which is literally impossible. But instead, I think he was advising his readers to stop “feeding” the past in our present reality, to “neglect” it.

Paul had a jaded past. He was rather abusive to early Christians, to say the least. Combine that with the fact that he came from a rather privileged background as well—money, power and education. He could have been crippled with self-pity or unapproachable with his pedigree. Yet, he realized that letting these kinds of things “go” was important to move ahead in life.

Memory is powerful. The past can be like sourdough starter. You know that stuff that someone gives you to make bread? Sourdough starter requires that you feed it flour and water regularly. When you do that, it grows and expands, and then you have to do something with it or it will take over your kitchen (yes, there’s a little bit of personal experience here!).

The fact is, when we focus on some past experience, we’re feeding it and keeping it alive in the present. Even if what we’re focusing on was a positive experience, it can still keep us facing the wrong direction. If we’re focusing on a negative experience, then we’re often giving the memory more power than it deserves over our present, in the forms of anger and bitterness. Bitterness is anger turned inward, and the only person it hurts is you, so let go.

When we stop feeding the past, it doesn’t mean that we’ve forgotten it. There are some life lessons from the past that we should never forget—like what decisions led to personal failures or successes. A dear friend recently felt led to share this quote with Disa that was very timely for both of us; “If you accept the healing that God is trying to do in you, you’re not saying that what happened (in the past) was OK!”

I would be remiss if I didn’t share the rest of the Apostle’s thoughts when he said,

“…but one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. (Phil. 3:13)

With the Apostle Paul’s brilliant advice in mind, Disa and I are going to schedule some time in the next few days to talk about something really important—the future. Yes, we will remember the past, for it can be a tremendous teacher. But we will do our best to neglect the negative and remember the positive and position ourselves to grow into 2017.

It’s such a crazy life, isn’t it?

Dr. Tony

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